How To Foster a Positive Attitude Towards Others

Seeing the best

In the best light?

I just read this comment from Cindy in reference to What You “Seek” Is What You Get:

I really loved this post. I recently had a similar experience when I made a photo video for Jason for his birthday. Just about every time I watched it as I was making it, I teared up and felt overcome with gratitude & joy for him, our kids, everything! But since I don’t think I’ll be making or watching videos like that every day, I still want to find simple ways to focus in on the ‘good’ more and more. It makes me think of the verse in Matt. 6 that talks about if our eyes are good, then our whole bodies will be full of light. I want to see others, especially those closest to me, with ‘good eyes’.

Cindy makes an excellent point.  When I focused on what a good man my husband, Steve, is for a week prior to paying tribute to him at a surprise birthday celebration, I was overcome with love and affection for him. Cindy experienced similar emotions while making her husband a photo video for his birthday.

The question she alludes to in her comment is how can we promote those warm, fuzzy emotions on a regular basis?  Birthdays only come around once a year. What are some other means of keeping our “nearest and dearest” in the best light (especially in our own minds) most of the time?

The forum is open, my friends.  Please share your thoughts/ideas on the subject in the comment section below.

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4 Responses to How To Foster a Positive Attitude Towards Others

  1. Brittany says:

    Some ways that I try to keep those nearest and dearest in the best light on my mind is through journaling, praying, and texting. Some days I am better than others, but journaling things about those I love has really helped me “see” them better. I have also found that taking time throughout my day to thank God for them when they come to mind or send them a quick text to tell them I love them or am thinking about them helps. These are simple daily or weekly things I can do. Other things I try to do is make them something special or write them a letter or card every now and then. I really love to write, so when I take time to write down things about those I love, there is something that unlocks in me towards them in a positive way. It makes me want to do it more often just writing this comment. 🙂

    • Diane says:

      Those are all great ideas, Brittany. I especially like your idea of writing about them. Most of the time, our journaling is about ourselves, so it rare that someone write about someone else. What a great idea!

  2. Cindy Lofton says:

    I really like that idea of journaling about others. Definitely one way of preferring others over ourselves and not making everything about us. That’s really good, Brittany!

    This whole issue & dialogue also reminds me of one of my favorite quotes by CS Lewis: “Delight is not complete until it is expressed.” That line has been burned in my mind ever since I heard it back in college. It convicts me to just speak what is in my heart for someone and not hold back, not be forgetful (as much as I can help it!), not be so self-absorbed that I miss an opportunity to really build someone else up in truth & love. I’ve realized over the years that this type of encouragement doesn’t have to be complicated, but pretty simple. Just sharing a picture, song, verse, quote, food, clothing, or a gift of some kind with someone when it makes me think of them really gives me joy.

    • Diane says:

      I like your thoughts about the simple ways of encouraging others. I have many times thought of someone and thought, “I need to call her about…” only to find out later (after forgetting to follow through) that she was going through a really difficult time and my reaching out would have been so timely. I want to learn, to first of all, to remember, and secondly, to follow through!

I love to read your comments!